when we argue

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if there is 1 lesson ive learned this month, its the value of arguing. though, im not the kind who really loves confrontation, but i always have ways with words. id like to settle things in diplomatic manner. however, i was struck by my consultant's comment, he said, when we argue, better things will come up. this is when we argue on the best option for the patient. and he is correct, the more we argue, the more we realize that there are a lot of options, for which we can decide which one is best.

sometimes when we look at things or problems, we are too close on concluding what is best based on our own experience, our point of view... to the extent that we dont give space for other alternative. and we are quick to judge who's suggestion to listen too. unfortunate but those whom we feel inferior to us (intellectually), we refuse to listen to them. im guilty of this 1. maybe we become too selective that we only choose those ideas which are similar if not the same with us. but the real value of arguing is not the fact that you got to depend what you stand for, but more importantly is the value of listening. entertain as much ideas as you want, accept the advantage and even explore the disadvantage!

Be open. its better said than done. very hard to do especially if the best idea came from somebody whom we never thought would think of. absorb each information and respect each idea presented. 

Accept. sometimes, we die for what we believe in, but not always the case, we have to swallow that pride and be a man! its not always that things turn out the way we want them to be.

and then evaluate. a friend surgeon of mine would always ask after his surgery, what did we do wrong? where can we improve? what can be done next time? these are the things that stimulates learning.

so when i go home and my wife starts to argue with me, i just smile, coz i know better ideas is just waiting to come up...